I have a question for you today…
What happens when you put yourself on the back burner?
Back burner ==> To establish something as being a low priority; to give something less or little thought or attention; to postpone, suspend, or hold off on doing something.
I was talking with a woman named Debbie earlier this week.
She said...
"I need to get back to healthy habits...
Back to eating healthy...
Focusing back on self care.
If I don't focus on that ==> I can go for a long time doing nothing for myself."
==> aka: back burner.
And so I asked her, "What are the consequences of this for you?"
Here's what Debbie said:
"My body starts feeling irritable...
I'm not coping with stress...
I feel like crap...
I'm exhausted...
and the more exhausted I am, the more frantic I become."
I'm wondering if you can relate to this?
I sure can.
When I put myself on the back burner...
When I...
Don't sleep enough
Don't eat well
Eat in a rush or skip meals
Don't drink enough water
Run around without margin
Say yes to things that I know deep down aren't a yes right now
Forget to take care of my core needs
...I get depleted, irritable, anxious, exhausted, overwhelmed, resentful, burned out...
==> and I shut down.
And when I'm depleted, it's hard for me to show up in my life for others.
So let me ask you, like I asked Debbie...
What are the consequences of putting yourself on the back burner?
What are the reasons you put yourself there?
When I surveyed women on this question, I got so many different answers but here are the main ones.
I don't have enough time.
It's selfish to take care of myself before others
Somebody always needs me.
It's too much work.
My family's needs are more important than my needs.
I'm too tired.
If this is you...please ask yourself this question:
When I put others needs and other responsibilities before my own and it leaves me feeling exhausted, depleted, crabby, and irritable...how is this a gift to the people I love?
Here's what I want to propose...while society might tell you it's selfish to put yourself on the front burner...might it actually be selfish not to?
Because how you feel physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually impacts everything and everyone around you, so I want to propose that it's really important you take care of yourself.
When something is important to you (kids, dog, work, friend), you find the time. You figure it out.
So maybe this isn't about not having enough time. But making yourself a priority like the other things that are important to you in your life.
Give yourself some time to journal on these questions:
1) What are the reasons I put myself on the back burner?
2) What are the consequences when I do this?
3) What have I put on the back burner that needs to become a priority?
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